Unwilling to share happiness

One person’s insecurities inhibits their ability to be happy for someone else’s success.  You may have been friends with someone for a while and was ticking along nicely, and then suddenly your situation changes, and your friend begins to find it difficult to share your happiness. You may get a new promotion, or being accredited for the job you are doing, and before you know it your friend, for no ‘obvious’ reasons no longer wants to spend time with you.

This can be hurtful and confusing for all of those involved. Your friend may be struggling with such feelings of worthlessness, unhappiness and jealousy, that one finds it really difficult to see you spending time enjoying your new fortune. For you, it can leave you feeling really hurt and confused that your friend, who you valued, suddenly can’t be happy for you.  Insecure people can feel threatened very easily, and will often struggle to keep the upper hand when it comes to their careers, relationships and personal life as this gives them a sense of worth. Insecure people can also often ‘shut down’ and appear to ‘turn on you’ for no real valid reason. Finding it increasingly challenging and difficult to deal with their negative feelings and emotions.

Deep inside a person was hurting, and was desperate to find a deeper sense of happiness. The problem was one was looking at recognition from career path - rather than from deep within the soul.